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Life Loves to Throw Curveballs, So Ditch the Rigid Money Rules and Do This Instead

Some financial rules can be way too rigid for real life. A values-based personal financial philosophy is a more flexible approach that helps you retain confidence — whatever life throws at you.

By Marcia Dawood published 27 February 2026 in Features

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Most financial advice is built around rules: Save a certain percentage, invest on a fixed schedule, never touch the principal, always follow the same formula. Rules can be useful until life changes. And life will always change.

Career shifts, relationship changes, caregiving responsibilities, inheritance, market volatility and health events all introduce complexity that rigid advice was never designed to handle.

When financial rules collide with real life, people often feel stuck, anxious or disconnected from their money.

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What holds up better than rules is a personal financial philosophy — a values-based framework that helps guide decisions across changing circumstances without requiring a complete reset every time life shifts.

Swapping rules for values

Many financially capable people struggle not because they lack discipline, but because the rules they were given no longer fit their reality.

A strict savings strategy may feel impossible during a career pause
A "never sell" investing mindset can conflict with family obligations
A conservative risk profile built early in life may no longer align with current resources or time horizons

Rules are static, but life is not. When advice stops fitting, people often disengage. They delay decisions, avoid conversations or outsource choices without understanding them. That disengagement can quietly erode both confidence and long-term outcomes.

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A personal financial philosophy is your own unique guide. Instead of asking, "What should I do?" a philosophy helps you ask, "What matters most right now, and what trade-offs am I willing to make?"

A useful financial philosophy answers practical questions such as what money needs to support at this stage of life, where flexibility matters more than certainty, how much risk feels appropriate today and what values you want reflected in financial decisions, especially under pressure.

Your situation may still carry complexity, but it helps to provide clarity when decisions are not obvious.

Values-based decision-making is often misunderstood as emotional or vague. In practice, it is highly practical.

I have seen business founders choose diversification over maximum upside because personal freedom mattered more than continued growth

I have seen investors accept volatility in one part of a portfolio to preserve stability elsewhere

I have seen people intentionally slow wealth accumulation during periods when health, family or sustainability required more attention

These decisions were intentional and informed. A financial philosophy sharpens your view of risk and strengthens decision-making.

Staying present

One of the most common beliefs I encounter is that people should not engage deeply with their finances unless they fully understand every detail. That belief often leads to passivity.

Financial decisions improve through engagement. Engagement means asking questions, understanding the reasoning behind recommendations, staying present even when someone else manages the mechanics and revisiting decisions as circumstances change.

Participation matters more than perfection. Financial confidence grows as you practice staying involved and adapting when needed.

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Life is not linear, and money rarely is either. A personal financial philosophy allows for what I think of as financial fluidity — the ability to adjust without feeling like you have failed. It creates permission to revise strategies as priorities shift, without guilt or panic.

A philosophy that holds up over time is one you can return to repeatedly, asking whether decisions still align with how you want to live, what needs to change now and what can remain the same. Flexibility builds resilience.

Learning to trust yourself

When people move away from rigid rules and toward a values-based financial philosophy, something important happens.

They stay connected to their financial lives instead of shrinking them to avoid discomfort. They ask better questions, make clearer trade-offs and recover more quickly from missteps. Most importantly, they begin to trust themselves.

Money works best when treated as a tool. A personal financial philosophy helps ensure that financial decisions continue to support your life, even as that life evolves.

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Marcia Dawood is the author of the multi-award-winning book Do Good While Doing Well, a TEDx speaker, a podcast host and an early-stage investor who serves as the chair of the Securities and Exchange Commission's Small Business Capital Formation Advisory Committee. She is a venture partner with Mindshift Capital and the chair emeritus of the Angel Capital Association (ACA). She is also an associate producer on the award-winning documentary Show Her the Money. Her new book, Unapologetic Wealth: Rewrite Your Money Story From Any Beginning, releases in March 2026.